On life

Life in your late 20s

It’s my birthday tomorrow. Tomorrow I’ll officially be 29 years old, which means I’ll only have one year left in my twenties. I feel like I’ve grown up so much the past nine years and sometimes I feel like a completely different person. A lot has changed since my early 20s, which is what I want to share today in this post.

First I’d like to say that so far I love getting older. I love feeling like I have more control over life, like I know who I am and I don’t have to apologize for it. As the years pass I feel I worry less and enjoy life more (I already sound middle-aged don’t I?). So far, I feel like the past four years have been my biggest growing years. It feels like a lifetime ago when I was in my early 20s trying to figure myself out. Since I am now approaching 30 I thought I’d share five ways I’ve changed in my late 20s compared to my early 20s.

1. I live in an actual apartment

No more student houses, small rooms and shared kitchens and bathrooms. About five years ago I moved into my first real studio apartment, with my own kitchen and bathroom. It felt amazing. A year later, I moved into the apartment I live in now, which is my first real ‘home’. I have lived here for four years and it’s the first place I actually feel at home. I’m still renting, and the next step would be to buy something, but I love having my own place, without worrying if someone stole my pan or spends hours in the shower. I don’t miss those days at all.

2. I’m more confident in my own skin

When I was in my early 20s I wasn’t the most confident person. I have really learned to love my body and myself over the past five years and I wish I’d learned it sooner. In my early 20s I didn’t love or respect myself as I do now, and as a result I made some poor choices. In the past 5 years I’ve realized how much confidence grows on you with age. I take better care of myself now, I eat healthy food and work out regularly which also really helps my self-esteem. But most of all, I’ve just grown up and become much more confident (without much effort).

3. I care less and less about what other people think

When I was about 21 years old someone told me that as you get older, you care less and less about what people think of you. I’ve come to realize how true this statement is. I don’t know how or when it happened, but I’ve let go of all the energy directed at other people and what they think of me. I accept who I am, do what I want and let everyone else do the same. It’s so freeing to just live your life without worrying about what everybody else is doing. I can’t recommend it enough!

4. I love staying in more than going out

When I was in my late teens, early 20s, I lived for my nights out. In fact, I had set days of the week where I went out and partied. I vaguely remember Tuesday’s and Thursday’s were good nights to go out. Well, that’s changed a lot. Of course, it’s also related to the fact that I’ve been in a relationship for the past 8 and a half years. Going out is just much more fun when you’re single. But it also has to do with age. My interests have shifted from loving to go out, drink and dance, to loving a night in, cooking, watching a movie or blogging. I still like to go out, but I love going to a restaurant or the cinema much more than going to a club at 1 am (what kind of time is that anyway?). The music is too loud (I bring ear plugs now, I’m not kidding), people constantly bump into me, the drinks are awful and my feet hurt after about 30 minutes. I can’t believe I ever thought that was fun.

5. I take more naps

In my last post, I shared my strange sleeping habits, one of which is taking naps during the day. This is something I never did in my early 20s and is almost a regular occurrence now. In my early 20s I slept in, for hours, because I was tired from going out. Now, I wake up early, go to the gym and get to work which means I usually crash around 2-3 pm. That’s when I like to take a nap, for no longer than an hour, to re-energize myself. After sleeping I usually have some coffee, and I’m ready to go again. Although I’m not ashamed of loving my nap time, it does make me feel a little old sometimes.

So tomorrow is my official birthday, 29! I’m still in France on holiday which means I’ll (hopefully) spend the day drunk on a beach somewhere. I’ll keep you posted on Instagram:-)

Emmelyn X

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    August 29, 2016 at 4:28 pm

    For most points, the exact opposite happens to me (except that I also prefer staying in now)! I was way more confident and also worried less in the past (I literally was the queen of chill), and I thought I knew who I was back then! About the others, Ive never given much of a fuck about what others thought although now I slightly feel like that I do, but only at work-related venues and when there is something at stake.
    Despite that, I still love getting old and I feel that my 30s crisis is slowly easing out haha.
    I also took way more naps before! Id love to take on that habit again but unless I install a couch at the office, I dont see how… Also, I loved sharing flats in my mid 20s, as I had always lived alone. But true to be told, I dont think I could handle an unplanned house party today 😉
    P.s. for how long are you on holidays?? I should do the same!!

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      September 2, 2016 at 10:00 am

      Hi Ingrid! Omg I could not handle house parties anyore hahaha! Funny how different people are (about the worrying, and confidence)… I just got home by the way, after 3 weeks in France & Spain!! xx

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    August 31, 2016 at 8:10 pm

    Love this post! I totally agree on every point you made! I struggled in my early twenties about who I was and what I wanted to do, and also with what people thought about me. Over the past two years (I’m now 27) I have started to move past those things and truly start to find myself and figure out what is important to me. I also totally agree with staying in over going out! A night in with a few close friends or my boyfriend + a bottle of wine and some munchies = perfect night! Haha

    Thanks for the great read!
    Kendra | adjustingtoadulthood.com

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    September 2, 2016 at 10:02 am

    Hi Kendra! Thanks so much for reading! I love knowing that people struggle(d) with the same things I do. I’m actually excited about turning 30 and leaving all my worries and insecurities behind:)

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