It’s a new year and although I don’t believe in New Year’s resolutions, I can’t help but analyse the past year, just a little bit. There’s something about the first day of the first month of a new year (or in this case: the second); it makes me want to do stuff. Or write stuff down, as I am doing now.
What I want out of life is actually quite simple. The older I get, the clearer it gets to me what’s actually important. And no, it’s not ‘the little things in life’ or the things I already have – sorry to disappoint you. I believe in living life in a big, crazy way and although much of my daily happiness definitely lies in the ‘small things’, it’s not what makes my life worth living. I am an eternally restless person and I always want more than I have. Here are my five building blocks of life: five essential things that make my life full and happy.
First, I want to live a peaceful life. I don’t want to worry about stuff. I know that life can’t be smooth sailing all the time and I accept that, but overall I like my life to be peaceful. That doesn’t mean that nothing ever happens in my life; this peace is in my mind. It means that I can handle everything life throws at me without losing my mind or becoming overly stressed. I like to think of myself as pretty stable emotionally and I feel I am quite good in a crisis. Five years ago I would cry if something irrelevant happened like my laptop breaking down – now I look at the big picture and just shrug and move on. I’ll figure it out. Worse things have happened.
Money has to be in this list and that doesn’t mean I am a hugely material person. But I feel that denying the fact that money makes you happy is just stupid. Money is a part of life and having enough of it makes life a lot easier. That doesn’t mean I want to be a billionaire, but I do want to have enough money so I don’t have to waste time worrying about it. I want to have enough to be able to do the things I want to do, like go out for dinner, travel, buy presents, nice clothes, pay for gas, rent and everything else. I don’t think of myself as a ‘big spender’ but I’m not someone who saves a lot either. Money can enrich your life by the experiences it brings you and I won’t ever deny that. I work hard and enjoy making and spending money. It’s part of what makes my life complete.
I truly believe change is one of the essential things in life to be happy. As humans, we all need change. A change of scenery, the house we live in, a different job, a different colour on the walls, a new haircut… Change is good and it shakes us up, which is even better. One of my least favourite emotions (if you can call it that) is boredom and I also hate routine. I like being in control, but secretly I like life’s unpredictability more. You change as a person because of the people you meet and the experiences you go through – most of which you never saw coming. Change is what keeps you on your toes and makes you feel alive and although it scares me a little, I embrace it.
You CANNOT live your life without love. Love (really) makes the world go round. Even if you are single or have no real family around you, you live your life based on love. You attract what you love, you do the things you love and your thoughts also run on love (most of the time). Love is what guides you through life. Love means everything to me. Even in my darkest days I know that I’ll be okay again. There’s always something that keeps me going and that is love. Love for what I do, for what’s to come, love for who I am and who I’m becoming and love for all the people in my life who keep me going. Love is what drives me to do the things I do and to trust that I am on the right path.
As much as I believe that living a peaceful life is important to be happy, excitement needs to be part of the deal. I am not an adrenaline junky and I love my peaceful, quiet times but I NEED excitement in my life. In fact, I need both peace and excitement; light and dark; quiet and noise. If I’m not excited about anything when I wake up in the morning, why get up at all? Remember when you were a child and you lived for excitement: your birthday, a day at a theme park, a normal weekend day… There was so much excitement and I thrived on that. I still do – or I try to. My life is incomplete without excitement. I need to feel alive, most of the time, to really be in love with my life. And that’s all I want to be.
These are my five ‘building blocks’ for a happy, fulfilled life and since it’s the start of a new year I thought I’d write them down as a reminder to myself. You may wonder why ‘health’ isn’t in this list, but I really believe that if I have these five things set in life I’ll be healthy as well. Don’t worry, don’t stress and focus on everything that matters. For me it’s peace, money, change, love, and excitement. That’s all I need to live a long, full, happy and healthy life.